Quite awhile ago, I wrote a post about compliments. If I could find/remember (ha!) my log-in for my old blog, I could hook you up with a link. I remember I got a ton of comments that day and we all enjoyed that huggy, smiley, glad-I-came-here kind of feeling. I’m going to aim that high again today by asking you to share with us.
We all like to get compliments. Some of us are more gracious at accepting them than others. It took me until just a few years ago to learn how to accept a compliment. Most of the time, when someone offers you a compliment, it is their intention to make you feel good. When you counter with comments such as these below, it does nothing more than make the complimenter feel uncomfortable and they will most likely reconsider the idea of complimenting you in the future.
- Oh yeah. Right.
- What, this old thing? I dug it out of laundry basket and just threw it on.
- You must need your bi-focals changed.
- It’s a hand-me-down from my step-monster.
- I think it was a re-gift. (Big faux pas. She gave you that for your birthday, moron.)
Anyway, there are way more acceptable ways to thank your complimenter for noticing that you put forth some degree of effort in your appearance. Or how you pulled off that dinner party. Or how you made their day or whatever.
By and large, I find the absolute best way to accept a compliment is also the easiest way. No second guessing or wondering if there is some ulterior motive involved. Look that person straight in the eye, muster up the biggest smile you can and say, sincerely, “Thank you so much.” When you say it enough times, it starts coming out automatically and you don’t even have to stop and think about it.
What I would like to know is this: What is the greatest compliment that you’ve received? Feel free to add how that compliment made you feel and/or what your reaction was.
I receive so many compliments on a daily basis that it would be impossible for me to narrow it down to the one greatest. So I won’t.
Had you going there, didn’t I? *giggles*
Incidentally, just the other day someone told me I was “cool as hell.” (really!) Considering that the only thing I have ever aspired to be, is COOL, I have to say that (for this week anyway,) that was my best compliment. It made me feel, well… very cool. And if you get hot flashes as often as I do, that’s never a bad thing. 😉