Pisceans always swim in two directions at once. Does that explain anything about me? Just a little infobit that might provide insight on Why I Have Two Subjects Going On At One Time. And I can’t address them both so I’ll just deal with one for now.
In the previous post we were discussing the implications arising from a child dancing in an overly-mature, suggestive manner AND the differences between art and pornography. I will save the latter for later and talk about our (society’s) kids.
Since I posted the video, all my spare thinking time has been consumed with the way our kids are being made to grow up too quickly. We dress them in miniature adult clothes. We push them to walk, talk and poop and never give a thought to allowing them to do these things at their own pace. One thing that has always nauseated me is listening to young parents bragging up their children’s accomplishments in a competitive way with other young parents. I don’t like it at any age, but especially not with small children. There isn’t much to brag about besides basic motor skills at such young ages. Every child is different and develops on their own time line. Some early-developed skills may indicate the child’s potential for intelligence but surely does nothing to insure that the child is going to be a wonderful human being. I myself, would be way more proud to raise a great human being than a genius. Of course, personally, each of my children are exceptional in both respects, so what am I saying? 😉
I’m trying to understand why we, as a society, seem to be in such a rush to have our kids lose their innocent, child-like ways.
Maybe Brian can provide some insight into what’s happening in the inner-city with our kids, I only know what I see in movies. It seems to me that so many kids are on the street learning more from older kids than from parents. They learn that they have to be tough. There’s a power thing that goes on in the streets. At what age should a child be expected to understand, or even comprehend, that to be strong is good and to be weak is bad. Their little psyches aren’t developed enough to understand so they learn by imitation. So we have a lot of little street-wise punk types with attitudes where the children used to be. The parents, who should have been parenting them instead of sending them to the streets, can’t understand why the kids are so unmanageable.
You don’t have to go to the city to see what I’m talking about. Even a teacher in a rural school will tell you that kids have no respect for authority. I don’t think kids are taught anymore, what “their place” is. Remember, it used to be said that “Children should be seen and not heard”? I never believed that but this is an extreme example of what I’m trying to illustrate here. We rush our kids out of infancy and toddlerhood and make them into little adults. Then we can’t understand where they get the idea that they have the same rights as adults. The end result is a great big old Clash.
So why can’t we just let our kids be kids? Let’s try to hold on to that precious innocence they revel in. Encourage that wonderful uncontrollable giggle. Help them want to be kids for crying out loud. Teach them hide and seek. Put a blanket on the table and make a tent. Be silly with them. Blow bubbles. Make a mud pie. Don’t park them in front of a video game that teaches them to kill or be killed. There’s plenty of time for that when they get out in the adult world.